wedding talk

Since getting engaged at the beginning of November wedding thoughts have consumed my mind, when I’m awake and even while sleeping. I’ve literally had nightmares about forgetting important stuff like hiring a photographer. I didn’t really expect my brain to be completely overrun with wedding things. To be honest, I never really thought much about a wedding before this.

I’ve definitely wanted to marry Jeff for a while. I specifically remember walking around Target with my mom about a month after starting to date Jeff and exclaiming “I’d marry him today if he asked!” I’ve thought a lot about what marriage means to me, and how important it is to me commit myself to him but I’ve never really thought about what our wedding would look like. Don’t get me wrong, I’ve definitely made comments in passing like “Oh my gosh, what if we got married here?!” But I guess I never pictured the actual wedding. Does that make sense? What I’m saying is that I’m not the type of person who has fantasized about their wedding since they were a kid, and I most certainly do not have a wedding pinterest board. I am not dazzled by the wedding industry. It feels very much like a huge money grab and there are so many other ways I’d rather spend my money.

All of that to say – Holy smokes, I am overwhelmed. Wedding planning is not fun.

Things we have figured out –

The date! June 2018!!! It’s coming up SO fast. We orginally wanted to do it right after tax season (since Jeff works in the tax department) but there were a few hang ups so the date we chose is the soonest possible. There are less than 160 days! Really sweet side note here, essentially right after we got back in the car the evening Jeff proposed he was like “so I was thinking May sometime?” I was so emotional I couldn’t even talk about setting a date yet. I sobbed so hard every time he’d try to talk about a date.

The ceremony site. Part of me just wants to keep this a secret until after the whole shebang and the other part of me wants to scream it from the top of mountains. I’ll give you some hints though – It’s not in Ohio. It’s somewhere we discovered on one of our road trips and fell madly in love with. Perhaps best of all, it’s free… because we’re planning on just showing up, exchanging vows, and leaving shortly after! It’s very much exactly what you’d expect from the two of us. Definitely not a traditional wedding in any sense!

Things that aren’t 100% in place yet but mostly figured out and only stressing me out a bit –

Post ceremony food + party. After the very short ceremony we’ll be heading to one of our other favorite spots we discovered while roadtripping around the west! This is really special because it’s somewhere, just like the ceremony site, that I had mentioned to Jeff would be a really rad spot to have a wedding. Now we get to share this place with all our favorite people. Literally just thinking about everyone being there makes me tear up.

The reception! Since we’re having a destination wedding we’ll also be throwing a reception back at home to celebrate with everyone who couldn’t make it out of state. My parents gratiously offered to convert their annual fourth of July party into our reception which is perfect because that’s already one of my favorite weekends of the year. Food, fun, fireworks, and hammocking! I am SUPER stoked. I would really like to decorate, and of course, pick up a cute casual but kinda fancy dress for that day but honestly planning for all of that is completely overshadowed by planning for the actual wedding.

Honeymoon! We have nothing set in stone yet but we do have a general idea of where we’d like to go. We’re looking to do an all-inclusive trip somewhere tropical. We usually take super hectic trips, which I absolutely love, but I’m very much looking forward to taking a trip where we do nothing but eat, lounge, swim, and relax! If you have any suggestions I’d love to hear them! Bonus points if there are animals!

Things that are still freaking me the heck out –

The dress! I’m torn here… It is very important to me that I don’t waste a ton of money on a dress I will literally only be in for like half a day. It’s also important to me that I look amazing, duh. Right now I’m still thinking I want a long white dress preferably something with lots of volume in the skirt but I could change my mind completely. I’ve been spending lots of time browsing websites that have wedding sections but aren’t necessarily wedding sites, like Modcloth, ASOS, and Lulus. (If you have any other suggestions, I’m all ears!) I have wasted so much time scrolling through dresses! I’m so ready to just find ~the one~ and call it a day! I think my next step is to actually head to some bridal boutiques and at least try on some things to get a better sense of what I like the best on my body.

Our photographer. This was like the first question all our family asked. Who is gonna shoot your wedding?! Jeff is a wedding photographer and I consider myself fairly knowledgeable so we have really high standards. Photos are a huge deal to us, perhaps one of the most important puzzle pieces to this whole thing. We found a couple people to reach out to but we have nothing set in stone yet. There’s so much back and forth, it’s driving me nuts. I’m ready to just sign a contract and pay a deposit.

Hair and make up. This would be scary enough if I were looking for someone local but trying to find someone in another state makes it even worse since I can’t meet them and do a trial run before hand. Luckily I happened to discover WeddingWire! In general I had been avoiding wedding websites since we aren’t going to traditional route and I find that most sites are overwhelming but WeddingWire is really rad because you can search for whatever service you need by area. Clearly a function that is coming in very handy for someone trying to book things in a different state. They have lots of other great planning tools too but I can’t get over how convenient being able to browse vendors has been.

Um… everything? I sat and stared at this list with just three items on it for a while and realized I was having a really hard time figuring out what was stressing me out because I can really only think of those few things. I’m not sure what else is stressing me out. Because of the route we’re going – just kinda showing up, saying I do, and then vacationing with everyone, we have SO much less to plan than other folks. Still, we’re both feeling overwhelmed by the idea of planning. I’m sure even after everything is ‘figured out’ I’ll still be nervous but whatever happens or doesn’t happen is cool because I’ll still be marrying Jeff and hanging out with all my favorite people.

Look at those colors! Gah!

We were both a little nervous about having a destination wedding because we didn’t want to put any one in an awkward position financially but our familes have been so supportive. I’m so excited to have all our closest friends and family members together at two of our favorite places in the world. I’m obviously super stoked about the wedding but also just about what an awesome vacation it will be for everyone. Not many people take family vacations as adults, and here we are doing it with both of our families.

I’ll be SO much happier as soon as we get a few more details ironed out but y’all I cannot wait to marry my best friend. We’re planning a really unique wedding, one that could not be more ~us~ and I am beyond excited!

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Author: Kaylah

Just a green haired gal from Cleveland, Ohio.

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  • Hi there,
    Since you love nature and animals, Costa Rica seems the perfect destination for you.
    Plenty to see, between mountains, volcanos, thermal spots, beaches, tropical forest, parks…
    Check it out!!!!

  • I love this blog so much so I will give the same recommendations that I give all my friends- and I feel like Offbeat Bride is right up your alley. Though A Practical Wedding has some cool weddings and you know, practical stuff.

    I was pretty much the same about the whole wedding thing. I wasn’t a person who dreamed about their wedding day, we kind-of knew we would have a wedding at our CSA. And DUUUUUDE was it an expensive choice because of the catering. But we got endless compliments about the chill environment of the wedding and the awesome food. But the industry totally rubbed me the wrong way. Have you read One Perfect Day? It is a great book talking about the various industries for weddings. If you email me I will happily mail you out my old copy.

    As for dresses, have you considered vintage? I think it might mesh with your style to check out some vintage dresses. Etsy is great for checking out stuff, though you need to know your measurements and you would have to feel comfortable looking for tailors. Also it doesn’t hurt to try on dresses. We don’t get to try on fancy dresses, so it is always good to try them on. I THINK David’s Bridal has it so you don’t need to make an appointment. That way you can at least know if you can rule out a style. I hear so many people saying they wanted a poofy dress, and found that they hated them. I think USE to have a bridal section, not sure if they still do.

    • I’ve absolutely considered vintage just not 100% sure what I’m looking for yet so looking is just kind of overwhelming! Definitely need to go try things on first.

  • Why does it have to be so soon??! Fast movers!
    I saw a dress on Say Yes To The Dress that was a two piece. A crop top with a full skirt and when youre looking for one that’s exactly what I think off. A beautiful gown with a jackalope peeking out!! How cool!
    If this happens to be taking place in Colorado give me a holler if I can help!!

  • Wedding planning is definitely totally overwhelming! I aimed for a low key wedding when I got married, it was mainly a huge feast of all of favorite foods with friends and family which was pretty awesome.

    I definitely recommend trying on all types of dresses to narrow down what you want. I thought I had picked out the dress I wanted online, it was perfect! But when I tried it on I hated it. The one I ended up getting was definitely different than I thought I would get, but I loved it.

    I can’t wait to see what you guys end up doing! Try to enjoy every bit of it as much as you can! It will all go by so fast 🙂

    • Yeah, I have a feeling that’s what will happen with me – I’ll choose something totally different than what I’m picturing.

  • ahh, june is so soon! good luck with the planning – i’m sure you’ll figure everything out and have the most wonderful and most ‘you’ wedding. and that ring and the pictures of it are gorgeous! xx

  • I’m getting married in March, and I still haven’t found a dress yet. It’s going to be more of a forest elopement, so there’s at least a little less pressure when it comes to planning. I’ve been taken aback just by the price of wedding dresses: I was hoping to spend under $400 for a simple bell-sleeve, floor length gown, but apparently that isn’t reasonable?! A friend told me about reception dresses that bridal boutiques carry. They’re a little bit more casual, and a fraction of the price. You should check them out!

  • I know a million people have said this, but I am suggesting Costa Rica as well. Ziplining over the cloud forests in Monte Verde. Yep, a cloud forest, it is a rain forest so high on the mountains that you’re in clouds. Volcanoes, crocodiles, iguanas, and monkeys everywhere, I would suggest flying into Liberia airport and exploring the Guanacaste peninsula and then going south to Manuel Antonio National Park for sloths and such. Also head out to the beach, surf, I can happily suggest Choco’s Surf School at Playa Samara, I actually surfed because of them! You could even stay at a resort and relax if that is your thing. Other notable things to do: coffee plantation tours, kayaking, La Fortuna waterfall, a wildlife sanctuary, and hot springs.

  • Totally recommend the Mayan Riviera in Mexico for a great tropical vacation spot – Akumal in particular! It has a much more laid-back vibe than some of the resorts or the super touristy areas like Cancun – but it is still geared somewhat toward tourists which makes things convenient. You can rent bikes and ride around, and I saw a wild anteater there!

    I bought my wedding ‘dress’ (top and skirt) from Fanfaronada, via etsy. My skirt had pockets, which was basically my number one priority. Super comfy and super cute- I got the grey, and it was a wonderful soft colour.

    Maybe the Bahamas would be a good honeymoon spot- there are swimming pigs! Otherwise I recommend Australia- we have seriously kickass beaches, and awesome wildlife. There’s a tiny island just near my city that has the cutest animals ever (Quokkas).

    I hear ya on the stress, I felt the same. We were married an hour and a half from home, at a place without phone reception. I wasn’t even looking forward to it because I was so worn out from stress. But it turned out to be one of the most fun days of my life, and I wish it had gone longer! Plus heaps of animals turned up- kangaroos, beautiful parrots, lizards, and a baby bat. I wish you guys the same wedding day fun-ness, and as happy a marriage as my husband and I have (being married is seriously the best)! x

    • Awesome, thanks for the recommendation! I would LOOOOVE something with pockets!

      I’ve been obsessing with that swimming pig spot ever since I learned about it! Also, Australia is definitely somewhere we’re like to go at some point, even if it’s not for our honeymoon. It’s pretty high on both of our lists.