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one year anniversary!

by Kaylah Stroup June 10, 2019
all photos in this post by Madeline Barr

Sunday marked one year since the very best day of my life.

June 9th, 2018 at 9am I was standing on top of a crumbling old structure in a ghost town in Arizona exchanging vows with a real handsome dude.

I am still so embarrassed to call my wedding day ‘the best day of my life‘. I was never that person who dreamed about their wedding day before they were engaged, and I certainly didn’t have any grand ideas about what the day would look like. I don’t think it was the best day of my life simply because I got married and that’s what I think the pinnacle of adult life is…

Two Guns desert elopment
Apache Death Cave wedding

I truly just cannot think of anything that would top that whole week for me. It was nothing short of magic. That week included all of my favorite things plus things I never could have dreamed would be so darn special.

We were so gosh darn lucky to have that whole week to celebrate with our closest friends and family. Its been a whole year and I still can’t believe we managed to convince everyone to go on an epic family vacation with us. That week was about so much more than our wedding. While our wedding was the big event of the trip, we made so many other special memories it’s unreal.

I spent a lot of time stressing over our wedding plans. I worried that I’d regret not having something a bit more traditional. 365 days later, I can confidently say our wedding was perfect. There couldn’t have been anything more us than what we did.

The absolute only thing I can think of I’d change about our wedding day is that I’d have hired a videographer. I adore our photos by Madeline, the photos I took that week, and everything in the shared album from friends and family but gosh, I’m feeling greedy. I just want more! I want to soak it allllll up.

I’ve known since I met him that Jeff is special. I mean, that is why I married him. He’s there for me, always. He roots me on in all my interests, encourages me, and loves me unconditionally which is good because I can be a real stinker.

I’m someone who loves their alone time yet he’s the only person I’ve ever met that I don’t tire of. Being with him feels like home, no matter where we are. I feel like we just get each other.

The last year has really shown me what a wonderful partner I’ve chosen though. Losing my mom suddenly in April was the absolute worst thing that has ever happened to me. I still feel wrecked. I don’t know where I’d be had Jeff not been such an absolute angel. My mom loved the heck out of Jeff and I really think it was because she could see how good he was at taking care of me.

Jeff, I am so proud to be your wife. I can’t wait to go on a million more adventures with you. Thanks for being my best friend. xoxo

If you need more wedding photos, here’s the post I shared shortly after tying the knot.

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six months

by Kaylah Stroup December 11, 2018

Kaylah & Jeff, ghost town wedding, arizona wedding, palladium boots

Six months ago I had the most magical day of my life.

Never thought I’d be one of those people who thinks a wedding is magical. Let alone the most magical day of their life buuuut it happened… and it was. I know I originally said I wasn’t sure I’d be sharing any more photos from the wedding but you know I love to celebrate every little milestone (six months on the 9th) and what better way to celebrate than by sharing a few more of my favorite shots.

(Actually, a better way to celebrate would be to go back and visit Two Guns… and we did that over the weekend. I’ll share that post soon!)

ghost town wedding, arizona, the dainty squid wedding

Above; One of my absolute favorite photos. I’m so so so glad Madeline included that one even though its not in focus. It’s just such a real happy moment. I love it so much. It’s even the background on my computer.

Below; We spent so much time pulling things out of my dress. I specifcally chose footwear I knew would be good for stomping around the desert in. I was also totally okay destroying my dress for the sake of good photos but I didn’t realize how much crap a wedding dress would pick up. As we walked around taking photos my dress just kept gathering things. Branches, thorns, even weird globs of wire. The bottom of my dress has so many snags and holes in it.

Above; I wrote this on the ground back in 2016. Two years later we, of course, had to get wedding photos by it.

Below; Another favorite of mine. (Haha, jk, they’re all my favorite because Madeline is a phenomenal photographer) After the ceremony everyone drove to The Wigwam, our favorite desert oasis, for a super chill reception. Milo performed some magic for us after dinner. He can be super shy, even with just us, but he was a complete ham. Just absolutely soaking in the attention. I’m so in love with everyone’s smiles in this shot.

I’m just so madly in love with Jeff. Our wedding day was absolutely perfect. It couldn’t have been more ~us~. I’m so thankful to have found a partner who is on the same exact page as me. I don’t think there was a single thing we ever disagreed about regarding the wedding.

I spent so much time stressing over little details and worrying I might regret not having a more traditional wedding but holy cow, no. It couldn’t have been better. I kind of, sort of, not so secretly want to do it again every year. We’ve been ‘joking’ about getting married every year just to force our families on a giant vacation again and have the excuse to get dressed up. I have a feeling we’ll probably end up being those people who renew their vows every five or ten years though.

Married life has been wonderful so far. I didn’t think it’d change anything and I guess it really hasn’t or at least I couldn’t put in to words what exactly has changed. It does feel different though… and in the best way. I love being his wife. It feels safe and cozy.

Six months in and I’m still amused by the fact we’re married. Daily I say something along the lines of “Hey, are you married?” or “Am I your wifey?” I am truly annoying but I can’t help it. I’m just so excited. I waited so damn long and it was SO worth it.

In case you’d like to see more photos or read more about our wedding, check out this post. You can find our engagement story here.

details
photos – Madeline Barr
dress + topper –BHLDN
pink underskirt – Amazon
shoes – Palladium Boots
flowers – Sutcliffe Floral
pants + vest – Express

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our custom enamel pins!

by Kaylah Stroup July 5, 2018

custom enamel pins for wedding!

I am so excited to finally share one of my favorite details from our wedding! I’ve been itching to spill the beans since the moment I realized it was a reality. We got custom enamel pins made!!

If you’ve been following me for a while or have even seen a few of my what I wore posts, you probably know that I’m way into pins. I love that there is a basically a pin for any interest you may have, no matter how obscure. I’m usually wearing at least one pin every single day, even more if I’m wearing a jacket. So heck yes, getting custom ones made for the most momentous day of my life was a priority!

Our pins were made by a local company, Valley Cruise Press. Previous to getting these made, I actually already owned a ton of their pins so they had my complete trust in creating something that was absolutely adorable. We gave them a few key details to go off, and a rough sketch that Jeff drew up then they perfected it! Our initials, a saguaro since we love the desert, and two arrows to represent Twin Arrows; one of our favorite spots in the desert which is just one exit away from where we got married.

We handed the pins out to our guests as we met up with them in Arizona. It was so fun to see everyone wearing one in their own way each day. Just a little something to tie us all together.

Funny story actually: Jeff and I both wore the pins every day too. Before picking up my flowers the day before the wedding we grabbed coffee and some delicious pastries at Single Speed Coffee. Later that my sister-in-law ended up going to the same coffee shop where the barista said ‘I really like your pin! I feel like I saw someone wearing the same one earlier…’

The remainder of the pins were set out at our reception for guests to grab. Once again, it was super satisfying to see them being worn. I can’t think of a more perfect item to hand out. It’s small, easy to save, and has so much more character than your typical wedding favor.

Valley Cruise Press are the sweetest folks out there. I highly recommend checking them out if you’re interested in custom pins for any occasion at all. They even have a site specifically for that has tons of info and a contact form to make it make super easy to get in touch.
xoxo

On a related note, in case you missed them before, our wedding photos are the dreamiest.

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that time I got married in a ghost town…

by Kaylah Stroup June 25, 2018

Two Guns Wedding, ghost town wedding

I don’t even know how to start this post. There’s so much to say about our wedding and honestly, so much I just want to keep private. I’m straddling this weird line between sharing something I’m proud of and excited about and keeping it all to myself because it really is so special. Either way, this is going to be a long, photo heavy post and I’m sure as soon as I hit “publish” I’ll think of a thousand other things I wanted to mention but here we go…

Jeff and I live to travel. It’s such a huge part of our relationship. Neither of us care for traditional weddings so it was a no-brainer we’d have a destination wedding. Based on our travel history and the fact we’ve made it an annual tradition to go there, the desert was also a no-brainer. We’ve spent the most time in Arizona, California and New Mexico but aside from Cisco, UT where he proposed there was only one other spot that we loved as fiercely – Two Guns, Arizona. I had always half-jokingly suggested we should get married there but never really thought it could actually happen or put too much thought into what the logistics of that would look like.

Shortly after proposing Jeff mentioned “So, I was thinking Two Guns?” I was too emotional to talk about it but I couldn’t believe he was actually suggesting it. I finally stopped crying for long enough to have a conversation where we decided that yes, Two Guns would be the perfect spot to get married but before we officially made the call we wanted to make sure our families were down to travel. I was worried that it would be asking too much. Much to my surprise, everyone was totally on board. Not a moment of hesitation from either side.

Seven months later a grand total of thirty people, including Jeff, myself and our photographer, made our way out to Arizona. Each group took their own route, came in on different days, and did a variety of different things leading up to the wedding but all eventually met up at one of our favorite places in the world, Two Guns!

Two Guns is a ghost town outside of Flagstaff, Arizona. It has a long, kind of wild history but currently just sits baking in the desert sun. The property contains many ruins, including old cottages, a campground, a service station and even a zoo! Can’t forget to mention the cave either. (Heck yes we got photos in the cave!) Truly a playground for Rt. 66 travelers!

It’s actually for sale! If anyone would like to give it to us as a wedding gift, that’d be rad.

Like a lot of the abandonment in the desert, it’s not really a big deal to visit. There are no fences to hop to access the property, and it’s literally right off a highway exit. We figured we’d just show up, get married and leave after we were done. We had no plans to decorate. It’s seriously perfect as is! Since the ceremony was going to be super short we didn’t even bother with chairs. We did however end up choosing a spot with lots of objects to sit and lean on which worked out very nicely. It was essentially a wedding flash mob.

One of my brothers officiated the ceremony. He got ordained just for us, and spent a good deal of time practicing by marrying my niece’s stuffed animals because he was so nervous (mostly just because he didn’t want to cry!) So sweet.

On June 9th, 2018 at 9 am Jeff and I got married on top of an old crumbling building in the ghost town of Two Guns, Arizona.

It was nothing short of incredible. I spent so much time stressing about everything from the dress to if we should decorate or not but it was legitimately perfect. I can’t think of a single thing I’d change. It was so perfectly ~us~. We’re both just over the moon.

I will not say this is my favorite photo because I could never choose but you guys, I am LIVING for how fierce I look up there. Was I just married or am I ready to go into battle?

All photos in this post are by Madeline Barr. Finding the right photographer was the biggest task in planning this wedding. Jeff and I were both really stressed about it. I cannot express how happy I am that we hired Maddie! She is a blast to be around, made us both feel super comfortable in front of the camera, and gave us the wedding photos of our dreams. I seriously can’t believe these are photos of us! I’m already plotting what excuse we can make to fly out to San Diego and have her photograph us again. She’s amazing, hire her!

more details
dress + topper –BHLDN
pink underskirt – Amazon
shoes – Palladium Boots
flowers – Sutcliffe Floral
pants + vest – Express

Most of these photos were just part of the preview that our wonderful photographer sent over the night of the wedding (what!?) and somehow she’s already finished up the rest of the photos. I’ve pored over them so many times. I’m completely obsessed!!!

At this time I’m not sure if I’ll be sharing many more photos. The day before the ceremony Jeff and I were sitting at a cute little coffee shop and we started talking about how the whole idea of a wedding was super weird. It’s such a personal thing. Even though we had only invited the closest people to us, it still felt like too much. Looking back on it now, I love what we did and I’m happy everyone who was there was there but I can’t even imagine how we would have been able to deal with a bigger or more traditional wedding.

When we went through all the photos Maddie had sent us, I felt that same way again – just like this is SO personal, how could I ever share these with someone else?! I want to hoard them away for just us. Does that make sense? Did anyone else feel like this? I never thought that I would and maybe I’ll end up feeling more comfortable about it all after it’s not so fresh. For now, I’m happy just sharing these.
xoxo

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instant photos from our wedding week!

by Kaylah Stroup June 18, 2018

Polaroid Originals color frame polaroid originals

Just a little round up of Polaroid film shot on our wedding road trip! One week on the road. We explored abandoned buildings in the desert, visited roadside attractions, hung out in a couple of caves, spent time checking out the Grand Canyon and uh… GOT MARRIED.

These road trips out west, which have become an annual thing for us, are the one time of the year that I completely go wild shooting instant film. It’s not a cheap hobby so I tend to hoard my film. There’s quite literally more film than food in our fridge most of the time!

Obviously I went into this trip knowing it would be even more special than normal. I took SO MANY POLAROIDS! Photos I know I’m going to treasure forever. The one of Jeff and I at our wedding, looking tough with our friends might be one of my absolute favorite polaroids ever. I already have it framed*. My scanner didn’t do it justice, at all.

I’m a huge fan of this film and it’s actually fairly inexpensive these days. I mean, comparatively. Still a little over $2 per photo but NOTHING beats being able to physically touch a photo, and watch it slowly develop. Despite the fact they’re not even close to the quality you’d get from a digital camera, there’s just something so special about them! I only wish I had taken more of them on this trip!
xoxo

*These frames are perfect for displaying instant film!
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Just married!

by Kaylah Stroup June 13, 2018

photo by Madeline Barr

I’m baaaaack. A little sunburnt, super sleepy and most importantly… MARRIED.

I did my best to get the blog all scheduled up before leaving but failed to get anything queued for this week. I’m not even worried about it though. It felt really nice to step away from the computer, and work for a week. One whole week spent with my family, friends and HUSBAND. Exploring the desert, eating all the gas station snacks, and making memories. I have so many photos I want to share – both my own and ones from our incredible photographer, Madeline. (She had a sneak peek ready for us the next morning. I can’t stop looking through them!!!)

When I packed for this trip I forgot to include my gratitude journal which means I woke up this morning I had a lot to write down. I have so many thoughts and stories to start writing about as soon as I catch up on sleep but I just wanted to share a little list of good things, random memories, and happy thoughts from the last week in no particular…

▴ Finally crossing Cadillac Ranch off the bucket list!
▴ The lady at the courthouse put ‘Justin’ on the marriage license instead of ‘Jeff’. She was embarrassed but we thought it was hilarious. It’s especially funny because Jeff loves to give fake names. (Obviously she fixed it.)
▴ Found the best coffee shop in Flagstaff, Single Speed Cafe. Had the best lavender latte of my life the day before we were married.
▴ Went into this knowing where we’d get married but not the exact spot. It was a blast hiking around with everyone to find the perfect spot to exchange vows the day before the wedding.  Definitely one of my favorite memories of the trip. There were even puppies involved.
▴ Sunsets in Arizona are seriously top notch.
▴ The Wigwam is heaven on earth + the perfect place to have a mini reception! I just wanna swim forever.
▴ Exploring abandoned buildings with my dad was just as fun as I thought it would be!
▴ You guys, we got married in a ghost town, on top of an old tower complete with a spiraling staircase. Easily the best location EVER.
▴ Three words – complimentary cheese plate.
▴ So many great cemeteries! (Hello, welcome to the only blog where someone will be raving about how fabulous both their wedding and the cemeteries were!)
▴ Second to youngest niece correcting all the other kids – ‘He’s not Jeff anymore! He’s UNCLE Jeff!’
▴ Swimming with my nieces and nephew.
▴ Water slide races, even my dad + brothers got in on the action.
▴ Jeff looked soooo fine on our wedding day, and gosh darn it, I LOVE seeing that ring on his finger.
▴ Another favorite moment – Elycia going into the cave with her youngest, Olive, strapped to her in the carrier. We have zero plans for kids but Elycia is serious #momgoals.
▴ I only cried a little bit during the ceremony! I’m just as shocked as you are. Spent most of the day laughing, and just feeling overjoyed.
▴ Still can’t believe our friends and family came to the desert to watch us get married. I could cry about it now.
▴ Our wedding was legit perfect. PERIOD.

It was the trip of a lifetime!

That’s all for now. I have so much more to share later but we got home at 2 am this morning. Professor was meowing his little kitten head off and since picking Klaus up a little earlier this morning he hasn’t left my side, except to get toys to bring me. I have some cuddling to do!
xoxo

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#fessermakesfaces – wedding edition!

by Kaylah Stroup June 7, 2018

Guys! I’m getting married this weekend. I’m not sure if you knew that. I mean, I’ve only been talking about it for seven months straight.

I’ve been counting down the days since the moment we officially set the date. Yet, somehow, I’m still shocked its here already. The photo above is a pretty accurate portrayal of how I feel. I managed to capture a few more photos of Professor that sum up some other thoughts and feelings I’m having…

 How I feel about not getting to sit beside my fiance on the flight there.

Yelling from the back of the plane “Jeffy! We’re getting married!!!”

Realizing how the desert sun is going to fade my beautiful, freshly dyed, hair color the days leading up to the wedding.

Looking up to ceiling cat, wondering how I got so lucky.

But then realizing I have to get up at FOUR IN THE MORNING on my wedding day.

Stressing over all the tiniest details.

I’m filled to the brim with excitement!

I’m a little worried there will be a bunch of photos of me like this…

and this…

aaaaand this!

But mostly I’m just excited to nuzzle my scruffy faced man…forever!!!

xoxo

If you’d like to see more photo of this wild little kitten, you should follow his instagram – @fessermakesfaces.

 

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5 things I’m most excited about my wedding

by Kaylah Stroup May 30, 2018

What a silly title, right? I mean, obviously, marrying Jeff is the thing I’m most excited about in regard to our wedding BUT there are quite a few other reasons that I am counting down the days. We have just over one week left!

① Getting awesome photos of Jeff + I together! We’re both old pros behind the camera but for some reason we never take photos together. We always make plans to take lots of great desert photos together while we’re out there but end up getting distracted and don’t think about it until it’s too late. I am very, very excited to finally get some amazing photos of the two of us.

I obsess over every photo our wedding photographer posts on instagram. She is so dang talented, and I just know she’s gonna nail our photos. We don’t really have any photos displayed in our apartment but I already bought frames to show off our wedding photos!

② Getting my parents to the desert again. When I was four or five we took a family vacation out west. It’s something they both talk very fondly of and while they both loved it out there and would love to go back, it’s just not a priority to them. Obviously, they wouldn’t miss my wedding for the world so we’re basically ‘forcing’ them to finally go on vacation. I’m excited for everyone to go on this trip but the thought of my parents out there brings me the most joy. We’re actually flying in with them so I’m looking forward to seeing them soak it all in. I can’t wait to look for critters and explore abandoned buildings with my dad!

③ Seeing everyone together! This will be the vacation of a lifetime. Jeff’s family, my family + our friends! I mean, what other occasion would we have the excuse to gather up all these people on one epic trip!? I’m very much looking forward to seeing everyone interact and get to know each other.

④ Wearing a fancy dress. My dress is so beautiful, I can’t wait to actually wear it. Obviously I know what it looks like with all the other accessories but I’m eager to see it with my hair and make up done – and of course, to see what all of it looks like in the desert. We chose to have our ceremony fairly in the morning which means I’m getting up at the crack of dawn to start getting ready. I think for most people that sounds like the worst thing ever but I can’t wait to wake up and start getting all dolled up!

⑤ Showing everyone the places we love so much. I recently mentioned to Jeff how I couldn’t believe that we convinced everyone going to Arizona for our wedding was a good idea. Not only that but our ceremony site and the ‘reception’ venue are two hours apart. I know that everyone doesn’t love long drives like we do but I am so excited that they all are down for the adventure. Arizona holds a special place in our heart. There are so many spots I can’t wait to show off. So many areas we visited on our previous trips that I know our families are going to love.

I can’t wait to get started on this adventure, both the road trip + our life as a married couple!
xoxo

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less than one month left!

by Kaylah Stroup May 10, 2018

Y’all there is less than one month left until Jeff and I tie the knot.

Lemme repeat that. Less than one month! 

My dress is ready. I’ve found the perfect shoes. Our photographer is paid for. My hair and make up are booked. (Oh my gosh, what a hassle this has been.) I hired a florist. Hotel rooms are booked.

The only big thing left to do is a book a flight. Honestly, I’m a little stressed about that. Okay, a lot stressed. When we first got engaged round-trip flights were dirt cheap. We figured we’d wait a little while to book and what a mistake that was. They’ve nearly tripled in cost. There is going to come a point where we just have to book regardless of price sooo yeah, that sucks. Or who knows, maybe we’ll decide to drive if the prices just continue to rise. Either way, I’m ready to get that decision over with. I think it’ll feel a little bit more real when we have travel plans set in stone. Cross your fingers prices drop ASAP!

There are also a few other small things I want to do beforehand like find the perfect earrings, and figure out what I want to do with my nails. I’m sure there a couple other tasks like that but for the most part those aren’t really even bothering me. I spent so much time and energy worrying about my dress and hair that I basically have no more f’s to give. We’re in the home stretch now and I’m just ready to party.

All of that to say I one hundred percent cannot believe its actually happening. It’s almost like the closer it gets the less it seems real. There’s no way we’re actually taking an epic roadtrip with our family and friends! There’s no way I’m actually going to walk down a desert path with my dad to meet my handsome dude at the ‘altar’. It all just seems so unfathomable. It’s going to be SO AMAZING!

cookies Jeff’s mom made for my bridal shower!

Last weekend Jeff’s mom and sisters threw me a bridal shower. I wasn’t super jazzed for there to be a party where all the attention was on me but it was honestly a blast. We had brunch and they decorated so so so cute. There were plants on the table for all the guests in the sweetest little containers that said ‘let love grow. jeff + kaylah’ and then our wedding date. It was so much more than I ever expected. I am so so so thankful to have not only scored Jeff but the absolute best in-laws possible. I love his family.

One of the highlights of the shower for me was a questionnaire his sister, Emily, organized. Questions like ‘how long have Jeff + Kaylah been dating?’, ‘how many states have they been to together?’, ‘where did they go on their first date?’, etc. She had sent them to me beforehand so that I could answer but the very last question was a surprise. She had asked Jeff ‘what’s your favorite thing about Kaylah?’ His answer? ‘She feels like home.‘ I managed to not sob in front of everyone (because, thankfully, I was able to avoid eye contact for a few minutes) but just typing that now made me cry. I can’t believe how lucky I am.

I actually can’t even talk too in depth (or like at all) about the wedding without crying. I’ve already told y’all a million times how I’m a crybaby. I cry when I’m mad, when I’m sad, when something is too cute, and definitely when I’m happy. The closer we get to the big day, the more I cry – about the most stupid stuff too. The thought of us getting into the rental car? Tears!  Meeting up with our families in the desert? More tears! Thinking about seeing Jeff for the first time? MAJOR TEARS. This whole ordeal is just going to be a sobfest. OR maybe I’ll shock everyone and spend so much time laughing that I somehow don’t cry. Let’s hope for that!
xoxo

Read more wedding posts under the ‘wedding‘ tag! I’m particularly fond of our engagement story, not that I’m biased or anything.
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